What is reconciliation?
Reconciliation is the process of righting wrongs and restoring relationships. Residents who have left Hope Gospel Mission in bad standing are allowed grace to make things right and restore their relationship with Hope Gospel Mission and be in good standing again.
Who can reconcile?
Residents in bad standing who have been out of our program for at least 30 days are able to begin the reconciliation process.
How long does the reconciliation process take?
There are several factors that affect how long reconciliation takes. One of these factors is how quickly a former resident and others involved return messages and take care of items on their list. Another is how many things need to be reconciled. The process typically takes 2-4 weeks.
Eight Steps To Biblical Forgiveness
- Step 1: You, as a former resident should explain to the staff member (or a current resident) What was done or said wrong by you to cause a distressed relationship and demonstrating: 1) A true godly sorrow for the wrong doing and 2) Accepting responsibility for your wrong doing. (Leviticus 5.5, Numbers 5:7, James 5:16, 1 John 1:9)
- Step 2: You will need to identify the biblical principle that had been violated or disregarded. By doing so, you and the other hurt person will understand God's word and the healing that can take place between both. Your witness will encourage the Believing Community to follow the Godly example.
- Step 3: You will need to ask the hurt persons, "How were you wronged when I did (or said)....... This step allows the hurt person to express in their own words, how and what they felt about the harmful action. This step allows both parties involved to sense the weight of the wrongful actions. (We know that Christ suffered and died on the cross for our sins, when we offended Him--it appears important for the human side of this model for the Wrong Doer to fully understand the consequences and impact of his sin against the other person.)
- Step 4: Recall a time when someone had caused you harm in the same way you have caused them harm. What Biblical values and principles were violated? How has Christ changed your thinking on the matter?
- Step 5: Express your Godly sorrow to the person you hurt. Ask that person for their forgiveness and wait for their response, giving them an opportunity to express their own sorrow and hurt.
- Step 6: To fully understand the feelings and potential harm you may have caused from the other person, repeat what they told you back to them. By restating clearly the answer you were given, will bring a better understanding between the two of you and is a functional step towards rebuilding Godly trust between you both.
- Step 7: Ask the person you have hurt, "What can I do differently in the future to keep from hurting you again? Here the biblical act of repentance and the turning away from sin is brought into the forgiveness act. Each now bears the trust and responsibility to bear one another's burdens, and together work out a way in which they can show love and develop trust, based on biblical values and principles It's acceptable to include follow-up meetings, as necessary, to gain feedback, establish accountability so that reconciliation, restitution, and restoration have been completed.
- Step 8: Restitution: Ask the harmed individual "What can we do to make you whole again? Far from the normal charge of punishment or revenge, restitution involves the whole Christian Community including the person causing the harm and the one who has been harmed, pursuing justice, mercy and faithfulness.